Saturday, January 29, 2011
MENTAL HEALTH | 15 Styles of Distorted Thinking
They say, if you don't know the source, attacking the carrier is always meaningless. Do you often find yourself relying on your intuition? Do you find yourself wrong? Do you say to yourself "well maybe i am over analyzing" or "thinking too much"..well this is for you. There's always a better way to go about everything. Better thinking = Better Life.
15 Styles of Distorted Thinking
Avoid cognitive distortions that may skew your perception.
1. Filtering: You take the negative details and magnify them, while filtering out all positive aspects of a situation. A single detail may be picked out, and the whole event becomes colored by this detail. When you pull negative things out of context, isolated from all the good experiences around you, you make them larger and more awful than they really are.
2. Polarized Thinking: The hallmark of this distortion is an insistence on dichotomous choices. Things are black or white, good or bad. You tend to perceive everything at the extremes, with very little room for a middle ground. The greatest danger in polarized thinking is its impact on how you judge yourself. For example-You have to be perfect or you're a failure.
3. Overgeneralization: You come to a general conclusion based on a single incident or piece of evidence. If something bad happens once, you expect it to happen over and over again. 'Always' and 'never' are cues that this style of thinking is being utilized. This distortion can lead to a restricted life, as you avoid future failures based on the single incident or event.
4. Mind Reading: Without their saying so, you know what people are feeling and why they act the way they do. In particular, you are able to divine how people are feeling toward you. Mind reading depends on a process called projection. You imagine that people feel the same way you do and react to things the same way you do. Therefore, you don't watch or listen carefully enough to notice that they are actually different. Mind readers jump to conclusions that are true for them, without checking whether they are true for the other person.
5. Catastrophizing: You expect disaster. You notice or hear about a problem and start "what if's." What if that happens to me? What if tragedy strikes? There are no limits to a really fertile catastrophic imagination. An underlying catalyst for this style of thinking is that you do not trust in yourself and your capacity to adapt to change.
6. Personalization: This is the tendency to relate everything around you to yourself. For example, thinking that everything people do or say is some kind of reaction to you. You also compare yourself to others, trying to determine who's smarter, better looking, etc. The underlying assumption is that your worth is in question. You are therefore continually forced to test your value as a person by measuring yourself against others. If you come out better, you get a moment's relief. If you come up short, you feel diminished. The basic thinking error is that you interpret each experience, each conversation, each look as a clue to your worth and value.
7. Control Fallacies: There are two ways you can distort your sense of power and control. If you feel externally controlled, you see yourself as helpless, a victim of fate. The fallacy of internal control has you responsible for the pain and happiness of everyone around you. Feeling externally controlled keeps you stuck. You don't believe you can really affect the basic shape of your life, let alone make any difference in the world. The truth of the matter is that we are constantly making decisions, and that every decision affects our lives. On the other hand, the fallacy of internal control leaves you exhausted as you attempt to fill the needs of everyone around you, and feel responsible in doing so (and guilty when you cannot).
8. Fallacy of Fairness: You feel resentful because you think you know what's fair, but other people won't agree with you. Fairness is so conveniently defined, so temptingly self-serving, that each person gets locked into his or her own point of view. It is tempting to make assumptions about how things would change if people were only fair or really valued you. But the other person hardly ever sees it that way, and you end up causing yourself a lot of pain and an ever-growing resentment.
9. Blaming: You hold other people responsible for your pain, or take the other tack and blame yourself for every problem. Blaming often involves making someone else responsible for choices and decisions that are actually our own responsibility. In blame systems, you deny your right (and responsibility) to assert your needs, say no, or go elsewhere for what you want.
10. Shoulds: You have a list of ironclad rules about how you and other people should act. People who break the rules anger you, and you feel guilty if you violate the rules. The rules are right and indisputable and, as a result, you are often in the position of judging and finding fault (in yourself and in others). Cue words indicating the presence of this distortion are should, ought, and must.
11. Emotional Reasoning: You believe that what you feel must be true-automatically. If you feel stupid or boring, then you must be stupid and boring. If you feel guilty, then you must have done something wrong. The problem with emotional reasoning is that our emotions interact and correlate with our thinking process. Therefore, if you have distorted thoughts and beliefs, your emotions will reflect these distortions.
12. Fallacy of Change: You expect that other people will change to suit you if you just pressure or cajole them enough. You need to change people because your hopes for happiness seem to depend entirely on them. The truth is the only person you can really control or have much hope of changing is yourself. The underlying assumption of this thinking style is that your happiness depends on the actions of others. Your happiness actually depends on the thousands of large and small choices you make in your life.
13. Global Labeling: You generalize one or two qualities (in yourself or others) into a negative global judgment. Global labeling ignores all contrary evidence, creating a view of the world that can be stereotyped and one-dimensional. Labeling yourself can have a negative and insidious impact upon your self-esteem; while labeling others can lead to snap-judgments, relationship problems, and prejudice.
14. Being Right: You feel continually on trial to prove that your opinions and actions are correct. Being wrong is unthinkable and you will go to any length to demonstrate your rightness. Having to be 'right' often makes you hard of hearing. You aren't interested in the possible veracity of a differing opinion, only in defending your own. Being right becomes more important than an honest and caring relationship.
15. Heaven's Reward Fallacy: You expect all your sacrifice and self-denial to pay off, as if there were someone keeping score. You fell bitter when the reward doesn't come as expected. The problem is that while you are always doing the 'right thing,' if your heart really isn't in it, you are physically and emotionally depleting yourself. Read Full Post...
THINK AND INK | Model SayraJuku
Welp, Guys this right here is indeed special, usually when think model you just think of a pretty face with no substance behind it. When you see a woman with tattoos you automatically assume shes "rebellious", "uncivilized" and other negative stereo types. Model SayraJuku is here to prove you wrong. Hailing from Decatur GA, she's graduating with a 3.7 GPA, She's the Intrum President, Orientation Leader, and also serve as a Liaison as relating issues and ideas between the students, staff and faculty for Phi Theta Kappa Honor Society. Brains, Beauty, and Ink. yes indeed, on her way to success and she isnt even a "long weave thick redbone" LOL (i had to throw that in there) Check out SayraJuku <
5K: When did you decide you wanted to pursue a modeling career?
It started in 2003 or 2004 when i was working at Hooters with some co-workers and a photographer would come in giving us rates to take pictures and when one my friends decided to shoot i did one and liked it and when I started seeing the positive feed back I was getting from my pictures and it's been on every since.
5K: How long have you been in the modeling industry?
I've been in the Industry both (music and modeling) for 7 years
5K: How would you describe your fashion style?
I can describe my fashion styles and confident and comfortable I like to be in things I can picture myself in and know I will be comfortable when I step out because if im not either one i won't feel good about the day.
5K: What is SayraJuku all about? How would you describe her to your fans?
SaYrAJuKu is the girl guys dream of...lol she's exotic,sexy,and has streets smarts as well as book smarts all tied up into one. I would describe her as bold and she has a way of pulling you in with her eyes its something about her that says when I see her I either like her, want her, want to be her or I just love her!
5K: Explain the ups and downs of the modeling industry for other girls trying to pursue modeling careers?
When wanting to go into modeling you have to think; What kind of model do you want to become. I see a lot of young girls making the same mistakes I did taking nude pics. It dont seem to start off that way but some kind of way it ended that way if any photographer offers you wine or liquor on set to shoot DO NOT SHOOT! Because when you get older and decided to try it again in a more professional way guess what they're going to bring those pictures back up not to promote you but to EXPLOIT you in a negative light, it has happened to me personally! So take precautions to the hands or eyes you put your reputation in. Always ask for a portfolio to see work of an photographer to see what type of way he/she likes to shoot and NEVER GO ALONE! Always have a guy/girl with you I prefer both so that if the vibe isn't right you have no problem saying 'I'm not comfortable here and Im leaving."
5K: Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
In 5 years I want to have had accomplished my ONE goal and that's to be on the cover of a major magazine such as Urban Ink, Black Men, or Vibe maybe all three! Any major hip-hop magazine is fine just fine.
5K: Any last words?
I would like to Thank You for this opportunity for giving my team NeighborHood Watch and Manager Scherrell B and I a chance to tell the world about SaYrAJuKu she's hot and wants to be known out there. She has been told NO so many many times and to see the vision unfolding now is unexplainable. Also, learn the Industry as a whole and learn the tools of networking, build a team and you can't go wrong.
Contact Info:Manager: Scherrell B. 678-249-8797Email: hmenhw@gmail.comTwitter: @SaYrAJuKuMain Website: www.sayrajuku.com
Wednesday, January 26, 2011
WISDOM | An Old Cherokee Tale of Two Wolves
A Grandfather from the Cherokee Nation was talking with his grandson.
"A fight is going on inside me," he said to the boy.
"It is a terrible fight between two wolves."
The young grandson listened intently.
"One wolf is evil, unhappy, and ugly: He is anger, envy, war, greed, selfishness, sorrow, regret, guilt, resentment, inferiority/superiority, false pride, coarseness, and arrogance. He spreads lies, deceit, fear, hatred, blame, scarcity, poverty, and divisiveness."
"The other wolf is beautiful and good: He is friendly, joyful, loving, worthy, serene, humble, kind, benevolent, just, fair, empathetic, generous, honest, compassionate, grateful, brave, and inspiring resting wholeheartedly in deep vision beyond ordinary wisdom."
The grandson paused in deep reflection of what his grandfather had just said. Then he exclaimed;
"Oyee! (in recognition).
Grandfather continued;
"This same fight is going on inside you, and inside all human beings as well."
The grandson paused in deep reflection and recognition of what his grandfather had just said.
Then he finally cried out deeply;
"Oyee! Grandfather, which wolf will win this horrific war?"
The elder Cherokee replied,
"The wolf that you feed. That wolf will surely win!"
Tuesday, January 25, 2011
SAY WORD | Can Female Rappers Reach Mainstream Success Without Male Co-Signs?
Is it possible for a female rapper to reach mainstream success without the cosign of a male predecessor? Well, Dee Vazquez Sits Down With Karen Civil, B.Dot, Lady Luck, Nina B and Lola Monroe to discuss the issue.
HUSTLE.PRAY.LOVE | Interview with On The Rise Femcee Vickee Valle
I could go on and on..but somethings just honestly need no introduction, i just want to say...get acquainted now. Don't wait until this young lady is the next big female MC. that is all
Caspa Narkz Feat Vickee Valle- Take This World Offical Music Video
Interview Below
I use to watch my brothers coming up, and when my fathr got locked up i started writing my letters in rap form...thats kinda where it started..
5K: When did you decide you wanted to take rapping seriously and pursue the music industry?
I decided to take rapping seriously in 2005, i did a song which was kinda like the first official real song i did and it caught the attention of missy elliottt.
5K: You made a freestyle for Nicki Minaj which got over 30k views on youtube..how did it feel being prophetic, saying it would happen, now shes the Top Female rapper right now?
Over 60,000 lol... ummm, to actually see it come to fruition, and just not even knowing what the outcome was gonna be was how strongly i felt her music..whether she won or had lost, i'd still listen to her as an underground artist, i've always since first listen fell in luv wit the music and having the chance to see it grow is an experience i'll never forget.
5K: Will you give yourself that same energy as Nicki? Do you see yourself one day being a Queen of Hip Hop?
10x that , i owe it to myself. Of Course i do, i have no choice but be the best at what and how i do cuz cant nobody do me how i do me..which is alwayz gonna make me the best at it.5K: So you dropped the V.I.P mixtape a while ago, how would you describe V.I.P and Vickee Vallee to old and new fans?
VIP is Me, its street its real, its struggle its pain..its everything i can sum up in 19 tracks of who i am. it's V.ickee I.in P.erson literally. VickeeValle is whso everyone see's by the clothes the swagg the cocky aura given off, the party girl the stuuna. But underneath it all im usually judged off how i appear..so once ppl get to know vickeeinperson their like ohhh she mad cool! lol
5K: Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
In less than that i'll be conquering it.
5K: Any last words?
Special thanks to everyone that always take time out to listen to my music because its never an obligation so i thank you, shout to my lyrics and loyalty fam, shoutout to my muse, my family, friends and fans. I will Deliver!
Contact Info:
vickeevalleinfo@gmail.com
Email:Vickeevalle@gmail.com
Twitter: @dez803
Main Website: www.vickeevalle.com
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Email:Vickeevalle@gmail.com
Twitter: @dez803
Main Website: www.vickeevalle.com
DOCUMENTARY | Kymatica - Your True Purpose In Life, The Ego, Logos & Creation *MUST WATCH*
Sequel to the popular film Esoteric Agenda, this movie focuses on human and universal consciousness and points out a psychic disease that mankind has induced that is creating insane illusions which is allegedly the main cause of pain and suffering. Kymatica goes deeper into the metaphysical aspects of reality and connects ancient myths and history with modern ways of society and political outcome. Explains shamanism, duality, and reality behind DNAs and modern false beliefs. Kymatica is another movie which attempts to point out the fundamental misconception that humankind are facing today that has resulted in imbalance between planet, nature and species. Made by filmmaker Ben Stewart. Click "Read More" to watch film"
Monday, January 24, 2011
POSITIVITY | Start an Affirmation Journal, Become A Better YOU
In the words of Zig Ziglar "People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing, that's why we recommend it daily". I stumbled upon something amazing. Daily, Weekly or Monthly affirmations. Whats is an affirmation? an affirmation is a declaration of truth. Instead of fear, what are some positive things you can affirm? is it love? accomplishing a goal? paying a late bill? getting good grades in school? Well, whatever you desire, its never too late to knock fear out the ring and accept all good the universe has to offer in abundance. For starters i think everyone should create an affirmation journal rather it be physical or mental. Everyday, weekly or monthly you should work on manifesting one affirmation, if you can do more wonderful. If your not familiar with affirmations, don't worry 5K has you covered.
Lets say you want to work on a better love life (don't we all lol)
Negative Affirmations
"f*ck love", "love don't live here" "i hate love"
Positive Affirmations
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"I attract only healthy relationships""I release any desperation and allow love to find me""I am deserving of Love and i accept this today"
Now lets say you want to work on inner peace (don't we all, again lol)
Negative Affirmations
"life is a b*tch""we only live to day""i don't give a f*uck, live fast die young"
Positive Affirmations> "I am at peace""I choose love, joy and freedom, open my heart and allow wonderful things to flow into my life.""Life is a joy filled with delightful surprises"
Do you get the gist now? basically if you want something out of the universe, claim it, visualize it, speak it, write it down, and act towards it. Think to yourself, is you current behavior and thought pattern a good representation of the positivity you desire? if not, you know what to do. Its either now or never.
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