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Saturday, May 5, 2012

Dear Black People. You're NOT Mixed. Accept It!


Well actually very few are, but i knew the title would capture your attention.

Black people worldwide also known as the African Diaspora love to use labels. status and other excuses to escape their blackness. Historically every time we try to do such a thing we are always reminded of just how Black African we actually are. One particular epidemic in the global black community is us trying to get out of being Black by claiming we're mixed or not black at all.

Afro Latinos tend to be the absolute worst, our brothers and sisters from Mexico, La Republica Dominicana, Puerto Rico, Columbia, Brasil, Cuba etc LOVE to dismiss their blackness without second thought. Lets debunk the myth here, Race and Nationality are TWO ENTIRELY DIFFERENT THINGS (read here). For Example, if i was born in Germany, my nationality would be German but my race would be black or negroid (scientific term). If i was born in Brasil, my Nationality would be Brazilian but my race is black or negroid. Since i was born in America, my Nationality is American but my race is black or negroid, get it? Rather you like it or not you are African, you would think that since Latin and South America do everything in their power to erase the African heritage and traditions AND people out of their societies, the Africans in these places would be more united, proud and hold on to the Africa in them, but instead many of them assimilate themselves for acceptance they will never receive (watch Black In Latin America here).

Onto us Africans in America, oh how we LOVE the mixed label. How many times have you heard us claim to have the tall grandmother with the long jet black hair from the Cherokee Nation? 1 million times to many, I've even told this story myself when i was subconsciously self loathing. Sorry to burst the bubble but studies have found out of 36 million Africans in America less than 100 thousand of us has any Native blood in us, and most of them aren't more than 5% Native (read here). According to the 2010 census Native Americans themselves are only a very small 0.9% of the entire US population (here) themselves (almost extinct). To burst another bubble as of August 2011 the Cherokee Nation we all love to claim revoked Black membership from the Tribe, they don't want you (read here).

Another thing that burns my soul is when people assume you're mixed because your beautiful, if you do your research the continent of Africa has so many beautiful black women who are nothing more than black. Beautiful Black women just can't be black? Sadly a lot of black women play into it..."I'm Blasian" the only thing Asian about you is the fact that you frequent the Korean beauty supply, secondly looking Asiatic does not mean your're of Asian descent, the Khoi, Khoisan & Xhosa people of South Africa, who are Black but look very Asiatic are where the people we know today as the "Asians" came from (read here), the also have a similar click language oriental languages derived from. There are many more points that i could make but i don't have the time, I just wish we'd stop trying to escape who we are, We are only as Indian as the "Indian Remy" we wear...We are only as Asian as the General Tsos chicken that comes with the fried rice and egg roll during lunch hour. We are only as French as the fries on the Mcdonald's dollar menu.

You're Black Accept It, because if you don't eventually you'll be forced to.


Rest In Peace to the hundreds of millions of Africans lost during the Black Holocaust also known as the Trans Atlantic Slave Trade. Rest the souls of the Africans who fought for freedom in the South African Aparthied. Respect to the Africans who revolted for freedom in Haiti, The Africans who fought for equality during the Civil Rights movemnts in America...


They did not risk their lives and freedom for the atrocities we commit against ourselves, one another and the motherland daily.

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Friday, May 4, 2012

Should The Government Pay Reparations for the War on Drugs?




 Dr. Boyce Watkins and Yvette Carnell discuss the war on drugs and whether or not the penalties thrust upon the black community call for reparations from the federal government


thoughts?

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Wednesday, May 2, 2012

When Its Beyond Self Hatred...


Thoughts? Comments?

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AFTER TRAYVON: Black Boys Speak


An inspiring and emotionally gripping public conversation amongst 9 Black and Latino boys ages 10-17. It was shot in Brooklyn, New York in early April 2012 at the famous House of the Lord Church just days before George Zimmerman was arrested for the fatal shooting. "After Trayvon" brings together these young boys to discuss Trayvon Martin, their own feelings of vulnerability and fear, education, leadership, violence in all forms, history as they understand it, and how they view America, their America. Kevin Powell serves as moderator for the conversation.

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Tuesday, May 1, 2012

Promotion Vs Networking


"Opportunities are usually disguised as hard work, so most people don't recognize them"


I'd like people to know there is a huge difference in promotion vs networking. If i can say this best metaphorically i'd say promotion is the exterior of the car and your network is the essentials (engine, transmission, tires etc) It's good for entrepreneurs and small business owners to be balanced with doing both. Promo alone is great for the now, of course no one will know what your product, service or business if you don't boast but it is essential to build a valuable network before you even launch, genuinely supportive people can provide you with an umbrella of resources and motivation to launch grow and maintain a flourishing enterprise.
A lot of entrepreuers remain on life support simply because they do not have a network. Posting your links on twitter, facebook etc and passing that off as the grind does not cut it for you or anyone else, eventually you will burn yourself out glued to the web especially when sales volumes are low. Keep in mind most people are not buying your product, subconsciously they're buying the experience. What experience are you offering to your market? do you share useful tips, have you gained trust in your field? do you have testimonials? will your customer solve a problem with your product or service?

Networking takes time but in the long run it will take you and your enterprise to its highest potential. understand you are nothing without other people unless your business caters to martians. Each day exchange dialogue and resources with someone valuable (preferably someone you admire), take as much time to build upon your connections as you do to promote. Promoters come a dime a dozen, 99% of people are in the rat race. Having a valuable circle will set you apart from 99% of your competition. We've often heard people complain about others only calling them when they need them...Promotion can easily be the same thing. You will amass greater reward when people find you trustworthy and they find you valuable.Understand that money hasn't always been here and In the future it may serve no purpose, When you care about others and sustain relationships with great people you will always have wealth no matter the currency.



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Food For Thought: Should We Really Leave The Hood?


I've seen this way too often, and I've said this way too often.

"I can't wait to take my family out of the hood". A phrase said every second in every ghetto (America & Worldwide)


I remember the first neighborhood i grew up in, Broadway/Memorial Drive In Buffalo NY, I lived right in front of an abandoned trained station. Years later I found out that it was the Buffalo Central Terminal. This is the BCT in its golden days (here) and This is the BCT as i remember it (here). The second neighborhood i grew up in Central Park was once a prestigious community with shopping and entertainment centers and it was also a huge tourist attraction according to my late great grandmother. This is the Central Park i remember growing up (here), depressing right? I hear these tales alot, desolate low income poverty stricken neighborhoods once being prestigious, safe and middle class areas.

My grandmother and her children where one of the first 2 black families who moved to the central park area in the 1950s. They moved there to escape the "hood" they came from. We all know what happened in those times, most of the country was still segregated and whites and blacks had yet to be fully integrated as we are now. When black families began to move into middle class neighborhoods "White Flight" began. (White flight is a term that originated in the United States, starting in the mid-20th century, and applied to the large-scale migration of whites of various European ancestries from racially mixed urban regions to more racially homogeneous suburban or exurban regions. It was first seen as originating from fear and anxiety about increasing minority populations via wikipedia). Once whites abandoned these communities they became predominately black neighborhoods that remained prestigious until the "Crack Era" that i believe was government organized to intentionally castrate Black Communities and destroy the Black Nationalism that reached its climax in the previous decade and we have yet to recover.

Basically what i'm trying to say is what's really our purpose of trying to leave the "hood" only to migrate, re-populate perpetuate white flight (as blacks are "leaving the hood" to more suburban areas whites are repopulating the inner cities "gentrification") and eventually destroy another neighborhood? Then when that neighborhood is destroyed or becomes "the hood", you will seek refuge in another suburban neighborhood and the cycle will continue.

There's also a myth that we are safer in the suburbs because of the distance from our people, when we are really not, look at Trayvon Martin's situation. Black Male in a nice neighborhood "looks suspicious"

It starts at home. do the best you can to cultivate and invest in your "hood". Because when you don't, other's will (for example Asian Restaurants, Nail Salons, Beauty Supplies, Liquor Stores and Clothing Stores In Black Neighborhoods, meanwhile we have no ownership of nothing except maybe a hair salon. or urban centers such as 125th st in Harlem removing its famous vendors and replacing them with starbucks, corporate stores etc). It's easier said than done, but there is a continuous cycle that is not going to end unless we make the changes at home, In the hood. We seem to have all the money in the world for Gucci, Louis, Fendi and Prada, we can take those same funds and develop our home front, bring jobs, culture and love to our own communities.

I'll end this with a famous quote....
"What you resist... persists"





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Saturday, April 28, 2012

Hosting a Webinar Next Sunday May 6th "Precious Metal Investing For Beginners: How to Begin At Low or Now Cost"


This Webinar is apart of our RBWS/ Black Wealth Initiative and it will cover:

  • The Importance, Value and History of Collecting Precious Resources
  • The Present and Future State of the US Dollar/Economy
  • How To Collect Precious Metals for FREE
  • How to Buy Precious Metals at Low Cost
  • Things You Need To Know
  • Do's and Donts


Time: 1 hour
When: Sunday May 6th 7pm
Cost: $4.99
Bonus: PDF or kindle file with resources for your future reference and list your biz as a sponsor on our website

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Thursday, April 26, 2012

Black Wealth Initiatives Conference Re-Cap


First of all, I would like to say thank you to each of you for taking the precious time out of your day to come together for this call. It means alot to me and i am extremely humble to have these connections. I pray that the information and ideas provided in the call were invaluable and something you all can use and think about for future references. Here's a recap of some of what we discussed tonight:

Wealth and Why It's Essential:


  • There's nothing you can do without wealth i.e. i had to pay $ for this computer, $ to have internet, $ to have electricity to use the pc and internet, $ to pay the rent so that i can have all of the things mentioned previously.
  • It's our birth right. We are all entitled to wealth, abundance, happiness and health.
  • To enable future generations to be self sufficient as well as end the disease of generational poverty. To ensure that our children and their children a life of freedom and the resources to be able to have and maintain institutions of education, finance etc

Two Main Types of Income:


  • Earned Income: Earned income is the primary source of income for most people today. Any type of job that pays an hourly wage, pays earned income. Client to client and customer to customer can is also a formed of "Earned Income". Being dependent on your earned income is a great way to set yourself up for failure in the long run.
  • Passive Income:  These payments usually come monthly, and require little or no work for you to receive them. Some types of assets that produce passive income are rental properties, dividend stocks, ad publishing via blogs, magazines web/print publications, royalties (books, music etc) and multi level marketing (5LINX, Mary Kay, Avon etc)



What Type Of Income Should you Have?


  • According to Forbes Magazine "rich" is grossing $1 million in passive income. Passive income is the preferred income for every wealthy individual. Passive Income is infinite FREEDOM  Passive Income is money and assets working for you instead of you working hard for income and assets. If you want to be wealthy you need multiple streams of passive income.


Where Should you Start?


  • Your first step should be setting the intention on building wealth, wake up knowing that one day you will have amassed infinite wealth and happiness for yourselves and your loved ones. Your second step should be finding a network of like minded individuals, sustaining and building upon those connections. A wise man once said "The richest people in the world look for and build networks. Everyone else looks for work." It's not about what you know, Its about WHO you know that will provide the foundation, support and cultivation to take you, your venture or enterprise to its highest level.



Ready To Begin?

  • If you aren't already join our general mailing list here.
  • I personally invite you to join our Rebuilding Black Wall Street facebook discussion and networking group here
  • I invite you to become a 5IVE Koncepts Insider for only $9.99 per month. For $9.99 a month your business, product or service will get 1 blast per month (save $15). You are exempt from Webinar and Conference call fees that will range from $4.99 to $19.99 (save up to $90). You will also get a bonus 20% off of web and graphic design services provided by Kolour Therapy. also you will be listed as a sponsor in our newsletters and we will offer you a text link on this blog. To take advantage of this offer and become an insider click here.
  • Register For Our Next e-workshop "Intro to Precious Metals Investing Seminar" Part 1 for only $4.99. This Workshop will provide you with how i got started collecting precious metals and how you can start for low cost or no cost. FREE when you become a monthly insider. To Register for this Workshop Click Here Which will be hosted Sunday May 6th at 7pm EST.

Other Information:


  • I mentioned to you guys another passive income opportunity I've stumbled on recently which is extremely useful (no gimmick). CloudZow is a service that is only $5 per month that allows you unlimited online/offline store to back up your entire PC and protect your files. I've downloaded the program for myself, its Microsoft approved and actually founded by one of their employees. If you become an affiliate you will receive 70% of sales from your customers. Its only $5 to start as a customer or an marketing affiliate. if you're interested in join as a customer to back up you computer, there is a 100% free trial which you can check out here. if you're interested in giving it a shot by becoming an affiliate, its as little as $5 to join here and they will give you a full refund if you find the program unsatisfactory. This program just started 2 weeks ago so If you're going to do this MLM  it's the best time to do so, and its something everyone, including myself needs.
In closing, 

I hope that we can continue to build, i'm thankful, beyond thankful for all of your support. We will be wealthy. Friends never let friends go broke. Have a blessed night and a remaining prosperous weekend.

-da BAWSE lol! 

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Monday, January 16, 2012

The MLK that's never quoted

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Sunday, February 6, 2011

FASHION SPOTLIGHT: Deedazzle by Design

Well, i have a private facebook group called "The Portal" basically a whole bunch of 'differenters' who get together, network, talk about politics, religion, spirituality, and everything else regular folks can't comprehend. One of my lovely members plugged 'Deedazzle by Design' i was ABSOLUTELY amazed. the jewelry is BEAUTIFUL no to mention UNIQUE, so you know i had to blog about it. In the meantime SUPPORT BLACK BUSINESS! and shop with Deedazzle by Design


SHOWCASE 






Contact Info
Twitter: @Deedazzlebydesign
Main Website: http://www.deedazzlebydesign.com/

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HUSTLE.PRAY.LOVE | Interventionview with Femcee "Bella" on Hip Hop's Contribution to Society

'I don't believe in sugar coating, we can't fix a problem until we acknowledge there is one'

5K got the chance to sit down with On The Rise Artist Bella, Who caught my attention via twitter. Bella is definitely fiery, fierce, glamorous, and most importantly socially aware. An ATL transplant via Cleveland OH, at the age of 22, Bella is ready to take the world by storm. She has survived a life threatening car accident, undergone 4 fatal surgeries and is still ready to give the music industry her BEST foot forward. Not only has she proved she can stand tall in the face of adversity, the fact that her icons are prestigious civil rights leaders such as Malcolm X is HIGHLY impressive. Even more impressive is her hit single "Came To Party" which will take you back to hip hop's golden days in the 80s. Not only did she join us to showcase her talent but also she gives a wonderful in depth view on Hip Hop's Contribution to Society all i can say..is get familiar..


INTERVIEW BELOW




5K: When did you decide you wanted to pursue the music industry?

Bella: When I was 10 my brother (Chief) put me on the hook to one of his tracks. I always loved music but at that point I had connected physically with it & I just knew this was for me.

5K: You have a VERY dope single "came to party", how did that come about?

Bella: Thank you! Lol I was actually joking when I first started writing the hook to the song. It was when I began the verses that I realized it was real to me. I like to enjoy myself when I'm out, save the drama for the soaps, ya know? So that's basically where it originated from, just wanting to have a good time & enjoy life without the nonsense.

5K: What's the number one problem being a female artist for you?

Bella: For me, (in past experience) it's not being treated as an equal when it comes to my opinion. Most female artist are categorized as "Hardcore" or "Sexually Explicit". I'm much more than that, though I have those moments, I don't want to be boxed in.


5K: In your opinion, why is there a shortage of female rappers?

Bella: Because of the strong male influence on who female artist should be in this game. Not to put the blame solely on the guys, but in my experience they try to give you a "voice" and "image". Why would it make sense for men to dictate what a "female artist" should be spitting to a "female audience"? I'm a woman, I relate to women, allow me to express that freely.

5K: Hip hop or Rap?

Bella: A balance of both, but honestly you'd have to ask the people.

5K: To you, what's the difference between hip hop and rap?

Bella: In my opinion, Hip Hop substance, more lyrical content, messages, story telling and purpose. Rap is the ability to rhyme. Not to take away from rap though, they're both art forms.

5K: What's the difference between being a rapper or being an MC?

Bella: I think a rapper can rhyme an MC can intrigue you with words.

5K: Do you think it's possible to be a socially aware artist and mainstream?

Bella: Most def! Balance is EVERYTHING to me. I've lived in the hood, I've lived in the heights so I'm well balanced in life. Artist, like J.Cole, also embody that balance you need to appeal to the streets and the schools, metaphorically. That's my goal. To remain socially aware and be able to successfully go mainstream.


5K: Talent or business?

Bella: 100% talent 100% business. I LOVE MUSIC, seeing genuine talent inspires me and that's what music should do; inspire you. But business is just as important, it protects you. Paul Stanley of the band KISS once said "It's very easy in this business to find people who are willing to put their arm around you and tell you how great you are. Unfortunately, their other hand is in your pocket."

5K: How do you feel about the context of today's music?

Bella: I think it has low standards. But as the people we have the power to change that. What we except determines what's put out, ya know?

5K: In order, which ones more important to you, lyrics, delivery or beat?

Bella: The Beat, because it speaks to me and sets the tone for what I want to write. Delivery, because the way words are projected can determine whether a person listens or not. Your lyrics lose weight if your delivery is wack. Lastly Lyrics, because they allow me to express myself in ways that nothing else does. Honestly, it's hard because you can't have one without the other and be great.


5K: Give us two bars of your favorite rap lyrics.

Bella: "I will not lose for even in defeat, there's a valuable lesson learned so it evens it up for me" - Jigga

5K: Who's your favorite Social or Civil Rights leader and why?

Bella: MALCOLM X, without a doubt! He inspires me in much of what I do. Musically I wish to be the equivalent of what he wanted to be for the black community. A leader and fighter for the people. ALL people.

5K: How important do you feel music is to politics and society?

Bella: Just as important as the news, if not more. Some kids learn through lyric. It's influence is obvious. What Queen Latifah, N.W.A, and Tupac rapped about was current to what was and wasn't being said on the news at that time. That's what the majority of todays music is missing and I hate that.

5K: What's your favorite socially aware song?

Bella: I'd have to say right now Wale "Diary" just because that song brings me to tears always. It really touched home with soo many young black females, including myself, it was a mirror for me.

5K: What will you bring to the table as an artist?

Bella: Hope. I felt like Obama saying that in my head lol. But, I do. I want to bring hope for change in this world, not just in music.

5K: If you could lead a national movement, what would it be?

Bella: I don't know what the title would be, but a movement for truth and peace. I don't believe in sugar coating, we can't fix a problem until we acknowledge there is one.

5K: Any last words?

Bella: (To the music critics/fans) Listen and let me earn your loyalty babe. Even those who hate me, love something about me.



Bella - "Came To Party"Listen


Contact Info:
Email: Bellarudegirl@ymail.com
Twitter: @PRETTIE_BELLA 
@PaperbOyATL 
 @hOmewreckazATL

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Saturday, February 5, 2011

DOCUMENTARY: Esoteric Agenda - *MUST WATCH*

The more humanity strays from its’ origin, the more we deny our bond with nature, the farther from perfection we become. We are the only creatures on the planet that use symbols in reference to something else. This documentary shows that we use symbols for absolutely everything the mind can conceive of. There is at least one word or icon or gesture to insinuate everything our five senses can detect and then some. But along with this beautiful gift comes a flaw.

Most people are unwilling to seek and create their own interpretations of these symbols. Instead, they blindly submit to preconceived definitions and connotations given by sources unknown. Because of this, many things have been predetermined in our understanding of life without our knowledge. Words can be perverted and used to manipulate rather than to inform. Symbols can be used to segregate rather than unite. And those given the responsibility and authority to disseminate information to the public possess the ability to do with it as they choose.


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DOWNLOAD OF THE WEEK: Stolen Legacy. by George G. M. James

 Challenging the notion that civilization started in Greece, this uncompromising classic attempts to prove that the true authors of Greek philosophy were not Greeks but Egyptians. The text asserts that the praise and honor blindly given to the Greeks for centuries rightfully belong to the people of Africa, and argues that the theft of this great African legacy led to the erroneous world opinion that the African continent has made no contribution to civilization. Quoting such celebrated Greek scholars as Herodotus, Hippocrates, Aristotle, Thales, and Pythagoras, who admit to the influence of Egyptian studies in their work, this edition sheds new light on traditional philosophical and historical thought. Originally published in 1954, this book features a new introduction


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FOOD FOR THOUGHT: Is Religion an Insult to Human Dignity?

As you know, i watch documentaries more than Wiz Khalifa rolls blunts.

Today i was watching a documentary called 'The Virus of Faith' and something very interesting/almost mind boggling was said.


"Religion is an insult to human dignity, without it, you'd have good people doing good things and evil people doing evil things, but for good people to do evil things, it takes religion"

i think this is a very interesting quote. is it possible religious people commit sin, because they feel they will be forgiven? what do you you guys think?



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Friday, February 4, 2011

OH HELL NAW: 13-Year-Old Attacked & Hung By 7 Classmates



A cell phone video taken in a Philadelphia suburb shows a 13-year-old boy being kicked, dragged through the snow and then hoisted into a tree by his alleged attackers. He tries to run away but is caught again, and the bullies hang him by his jacket on a seven-foot-high metal fence.

Faces have been blurred in the video to protect identities. But the alleged attackers are the victim's classmates, ranging from age 13 to 17, according to police. They captured the victim on his way home from school last month. Six of the alleged attackers have been arrested on charges including kidnapping and false imprisonment, and police are seeking the seventh.

The teen was not seriously injured. A good Samaritan came by, took the victim off of the fence and walked him home.

"They could have killed that kid, impaling him by the neck on that metal barrier. This kid was screaming for help and they beat this kid...it's bullying, it's bullying in America at its worst, it's caught on video," Michael Chitwood, the Superintendent of Upper Darby Police, told press.

Chitwood said the arrests at Upper Darby High School are related to a Jan. 11 assault at an apartment complex courtyard. The video was taken by one of the seven alleged attackers.

The teen, whose identity is being withheld, says he was terrified.

"I tried to get out, tried to leave, tried to escape, tried to get up the tree and run away, but even when I did that, got out the tree the first time, they attacked me and they caught me again," the teen told ABC News.

His mom told ABC News, crying, "This is scary man. This is crazy -- there is nothing you can do to protect your own kids. What can I do about it? I'm a single person, I got two hands and two feet. I can't fight a whole group, I can't fight a whole school, I can't fight a whole district."

It's still not clear what prompted the attack, but the teens attended an alternative school together for troubled students.

The district's superintendent released this statement: "Although the news report of this incident may appear to give Upper Darby High School a public relations black eye, please know that the safety of every child in this district is of our utmost importance...I'll take a black eye in the press anytime if it keeps a child safe."

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Wednesday, February 2, 2011

SOCIAL AWARENESS | Do Black Women Have No Culture? Or Is This Chick Crazy?

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Tuesday, February 1, 2011

SOCIAL AWARENESS | Self-Hate: The Silent but Deadly Epidemic


There was a time in our culture when a Woman with a natural hairstyle was considered a Queen, a time when we could compliment each other on things we admired, a time when we listened to music to enjoy and not critique. But in the year 2011, for our people, those times are long gone. A Woman with a natural is a "nappy-head", if we like something on someone, instead of complimenting, we find some way to hate, and everything we listen to could have been a little better. If you find yourself spending more time than not criticizing your people, you may suffer from self-hate.



If you are an active Twitter user (like myself), you'll often see #teamlightskin and #teamdarkskin. If you see that, click on it and read all of the ignorant things that follow. I'm all for uplifting and being proud of who you are, but to degrade another group of people, your people, is the epitome of ignorance, and self-hate. We were all #teamnigger at one point. #teamporchmonkey was what the KKK saw in all of us, dark or light. Martin Luther King Jr. fought for all black people, not #teamlightskin. When the water fountains said "Whites Only", there wasn't a sub-text that said "and light-skinned niggers".


Self-Hate causes us to criticize other people according to our own insecurities. Things we hate about ourselves will be the same things we use to bring down someone else. Self-Hate leads to internet bashing, real life bashing, and just all around bitterness. It's something more of us suffer from, than not, and a majority of us are in denial about it. I know, I used to be one of them.


Being someone who used to use Twitter as a place of amusement, I've seen it all. Twitter is a place where people unleash their truest feelings and sometimes own insecurities in forms of the most malicious, disrespectful and degrading matters. If you are plus-size, have darker skin, or unattractive by shallow standards, your best bet would be to stay clear of people who try to make "careers" out of Internet Roasting.


Twitpics, Mediatakeout.com and numerous other sites pass around pictures of innocent and sometimes unknowing people whom a shallow audience would feel is unattractive. I've watched people pick apart some of the most innocent people simply because by shallow society standards, they weren't attractive. So what does this do to our people? It segregates us. It destroys us. And it will eventually eliminate us.


If you are a person who suffers from Self-Hate, most likely you're the person putting lots of time and energy into degrading your people for laughs, but as all these people are laughing with you, remember, one day soon, they'll all be laughing at you.


The point I am trying to make is, if we don't eventually love ourselves as we are, we will die trying to please/become someone/something else. God made us how we are for a reason, and I pray one day we all see how naturally beautiful we are. Self-Hate is another sign that with each generation, we're losing Faith in God, and when he comes back, it could be cookies for us. Think about it...

"Sometimes we talk so much about someone else's reflection, that our mirror gets fogged up and we can't see our own."- Danielyrix

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Monday, January 31, 2011

MENTAL HEALTH | Checklist for Hidden Anger


 HERES A CHECK UP FOR THE NECK UP
 
* Procrastination in the completion of imposed tasks.
* Perpetual or habitual lateness.
* A liking for sadistic or ironic humor.
* Sarcasm, cynicism or flippancy in conversation.
* Frequent sighing.
* over politeness, constant cheerfulness, attitude of "grin and bear it".
* Smiling while hurting.
* Frequent disturbing or frightening dreams.
* Over-controlled monotone speaking voice
* Difficulty in getting to sleep or sleeping through the night.
* Boredom, apathy, loss of interest in things you are usually enthusiastic about.
* Slowing down of movements.
* Getting tired more easily than usual.
* Excessive irritability over trifles.
* Getting drowsy at inappropriate times.
* Sleeping more than usual / maybe 12 to 14 hours a day.
* Waking up tired rather than rested or refreshed.
* Clenched jaws or grinding of the teeth / especially while sleeping.
* Facial tics, spasmodic foot movements, habitual fist clenching and similar repeated physical acts done unintentionally or unaware.
* Chronically stiff or sore neck or shoulder muscles.
* Chronic depression... extended periods of feeling down for no reason.
* Stomach ulcers.

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Saturday, January 29, 2011

PICTURE OF THE DAY | Mount Nemrut


Mount Nemrut

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MENTAL HEALTH | 15 Styles of Distorted Thinking


 They say, if you don't know the source, attacking the carrier is always meaningless. Do you often find yourself relying on your intuition? Do you find yourself wrong? Do you say to yourself "well maybe i am over analyzing" or "thinking too much"..well this is for you. There's always a better way to go about everything. Better thinking = Better Life.


 15 Styles of Distorted Thinking
Avoid cognitive distortions that may skew your perception.


1. Filtering: You take the negative details and magnify them, while filtering out all positive aspects of a situation. A single detail may be picked out, and the whole event becomes colored by this detail. When you pull negative things out of context, isolated from all the good experiences around you, you make them larger and more awful than they really are.

2. Polarized Thinking: The hallmark of this distortion is an insistence on dichotomous choices. Things are black or white, good or bad. You tend to perceive everything at the extremes, with very little room for a middle ground. The greatest danger in polarized thinking is its impact on how you judge yourself. For example-You have to be perfect or you're a failure.

3. Overgeneralization: You come to a general conclusion based on a single incident or piece of evidence. If something bad happens once, you expect it to happen over and over again. 'Always' and 'never' are cues that this style of thinking is being utilized. This distortion can lead to a restricted life, as you avoid future failures based on the single incident or event.

4. Mind Reading: Without their saying so, you know what people are feeling and why they act the way they do. In particular, you are able to divine how people are feeling toward you. Mind reading depends on a process called projection. You imagine that people feel the same way you do and react to things the same way you do. Therefore, you don't watch or listen carefully enough to notice that they are actually different. Mind readers jump to conclusions that are true for them, without checking whether they are true for the other person.

5. Catastrophizing: You expect disaster. You notice or hear about a problem and start "what if's." What if that happens to me? What if tragedy strikes? There are no limits to a really fertile catastrophic imagination. An underlying catalyst for this style of thinking is that you do not trust in yourself and your capacity to adapt to change.

6. Personalization: This is the tendency to relate everything around you to yourself. For example, thinking that everything people do or say is some kind of reaction to you. You also compare yourself to others, trying to determine who's smarter, better looking, etc. The underlying assumption is that your worth is in question. You are therefore continually forced to test your value as a person by measuring yourself against others. If you come out better, you get a moment's relief. If you come up short, you feel diminished. The basic thinking error is that you interpret each experience, each conversation, each look as a clue to your worth and value.

7. Control Fallacies: There are two ways you can distort your sense of power and control. If you feel externally controlled, you see yourself as helpless, a victim of fate. The fallacy of internal control has you responsible for the pain and happiness of everyone around you. Feeling externally controlled keeps you stuck. You don't believe you can really affect the basic shape of your life, let alone make any difference in the world. The truth of the matter is that we are constantly making decisions, and that every decision affects our lives. On the other hand, the fallacy of internal control leaves you exhausted as you attempt to fill the needs of everyone around you, and feel responsible in doing so (and guilty when you cannot).

8. Fallacy of Fairness: You feel resentful because you think you know what's fair, but other people won't agree with you. Fairness is so conveniently defined, so temptingly self-serving, that each person gets locked into his or her own point of view. It is tempting to make assumptions about how things would change if people were only fair or really valued you. But the other person hardly ever sees it that way, and you end up causing yourself a lot of pain and an ever-growing resentment.

9. Blaming: You hold other people responsible for your pain, or take the other tack and blame yourself for every problem. Blaming often involves making someone else responsible for choices and decisions that are actually our own responsibility. In blame systems, you deny your right (and responsibility) to assert your needs, say no, or go elsewhere for what you want.

10. Shoulds: You have a list of ironclad rules about how you and other people should act. People who break the rules anger you, and you feel guilty if you violate the rules. The rules are right and indisputable and, as a result, you are often in the position of judging and finding fault (in yourself and in others). Cue words indicating the presence of this distortion are should, ought, and must.

11. Emotional Reasoning: You believe that what you feel must be true-automatically. If you feel stupid or boring, then you must be stupid and boring. If you feel guilty, then you must have done something wrong. The problem with emotional reasoning is that our emotions interact and correlate with our thinking process. Therefore, if you have distorted thoughts and beliefs, your emotions will reflect these distortions.

12. Fallacy of Change: You expect that other people will change to suit you if you just pressure or cajole them enough. You need to change people because your hopes for happiness seem to depend entirely on them. The truth is the only person you can really control or have much hope of changing is yourself. The underlying assumption of this thinking style is that your happiness depends on the actions of others. Your happiness actually depends on the thousands of large and small choices you make in your life.

13. Global Labeling: You generalize one or two qualities (in yourself or others) into a negative global judgment. Global labeling ignores all contrary evidence, creating a view of the world that can be stereotyped and one-dimensional. Labeling yourself can have a negative and insidious impact upon your self-esteem; while labeling others can lead to snap-judgments, relationship problems, and prejudice.

14. Being Right: You feel continually on trial to prove that your opinions and actions are correct. Being wrong is unthinkable and you will go to any length to demonstrate your rightness. Having to be 'right' often makes you hard of hearing. You aren't interested in the possible veracity of a differing opinion, only in defending your own. Being right becomes more important than an honest and caring relationship.

15. Heaven's Reward Fallacy: You expect all your sacrifice and self-denial to pay off, as if there were someone keeping score. You fell bitter when the reward doesn't come as expected. The problem is that while you are always doing the 'right thing,' if your heart really isn't in it, you are physically and emotionally depleting yourself.

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